Blogging and the Sexes

Last week I posted my Confessions of a Sexist Blog Reader after discovering that I am far too likely to read blogs by guys just like myself (though probably taller). The comment section quickly filled up with some helpful thoughts, some frustration, and some questions. It didn’t seem right to take little shots at answering the comments when I didn’t have time. I think this issue is important enough to warrant another full post or two. I hope to give this issue the attention that it deserves.

Here are some of the core issues/questions that came up:

1. Where do bloggers, men especially, find the time?
2. Do women and men blog differently?
3. Why aren’t more women bloggers noticed in general? And then the follow up: Why aren’t women bloggers as prominent as men in the emerging church?

I’ll take a crack at the first question today . . .

I have to admit that I am mystified sometimes by the amount of time that some bloggers pour into their design, posts, images, etc. This blog here is pretty plain and it has become even more plain because I’ve decided that it’s not worth spending time on editing pictures to have some eye candy on the site. Other people can do it, but I’d rather spend more time on content. But back to our question: where does the time come from?

As for myself, I get up fairly early, help my wife get ready for school by making breakfast and piecing together a lunch, feed the rabbits, clean up the rabbits, get ready for work, and then settle in to blog for 30-60 minutes. That is my time to read other blogs and to write my own posts. My blogging was a decision that I made with my wife. We deemed it worthy of budgeting some time. There have been times when she has told me to lay off it a little, and I have. But for the most part we make it work.

I should also mention that we don’t have TV, so the internet is a lifeline of sorts in our home. We spend our evenings together either walking, reading books, etc. There is no temptation to sit in front of the TV that many other couples have. I suppose it all comes down to lifestyle decisions.

As for the thoughts of others, Andrew Jones made a point of not blogging on weekends so that his kids wouldn’t remember him as the guy in front of computer. I think that some bloggers may be in need of taking more time away from the computer. When Jones posted on this problem, there was a deluge of comments from other bloggers who needed some time off. I would not be surprised if some bloggers are sacrificing important priorities for the sake of posting regularly.

On the other hand, some may blog as part of their ministry or job. Some may do it as a hobby of choice. Some do it as a beneficial discipline.

Many of the guys who blog in the emerging church may have a ministry position, and therefore the time for blogging is easy to account for. If they work a job like the rest of us, they may have a little blog like this one that settles for a short to moderate post every day.

Do guys spend too much time blogging? Some do, some don’t. Some blog in the morning, some stay up really late, which I don’t view as a good thing. I am amazed sometimes at the amount of content that some bloggers post on their sites, but sometimes it comes down to how fast a person can read, process, and type. My wife reads about 4-5 books a week and our relationship has never suffered because of it. She just reads incredibly fast and has book nearby at all times.

In the end what really matters is knowing Jesus. I know that I have sometimes failed to spend enough time with him and/or my wife on account of my blogging, and therefore blogging must always remain under scrutiny. When evaluating the importance of blogging in our lives, we should keep this in mind:

‘It is not anyone who says to me, “Lord, Lord,” who will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the person who does the will of my Father in heaven. When the day comes many will say to me, “Lord, Lord, did we not blog, I mean prophesy in your name?” Then I shall tell them to their faces: “I have never known you; away from me all evildoers!” ‘
Matthew 7:21-23 (adapted for bloggers by Ed Cyzewski)

One thought on “Blogging and the Sexes

  1. jamie davidson

    hey ed…you asked me to comment, and so, i will. you noticed you tend to read more male blogs. i’m not sure why you think that you have to apologize or even why you feel the need to spend a lot of time thinking about it. If a blog is an online journal, you should be able to enjoy it and talk to people who are interested in what you are. seems to me that it’s pretty obvious that men are more interested in talking about your subject matter than women. to get more discriminitory, i’ll bet more men that enjoy theological debates and are deep thinkers check out your site than any others. Do you check out sites dedicated to badminton or cuttlefish? probably not, because they don’t interest you. are you discriminating? probably not.
    on sexism in general, the Bible talks about men and women differently…because they are. it talks about in Genesis that women will desire man’s position. so, i’m inclined to think that the times where i’m having thoughts of bitterness towards men and their roles, that i need to rely on the Holy Spirit to focus on truth.
    about equality and such, i’ve been thinking of the trinity. though they are the same, they’re functionally different. Gal 2: 5-7 says, "Your attitude should be the same as that of Jesus Christ: who being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant.
    in my life i want to seek the truth. i want to focus myself on what God wants to show me and work out in me. as far as my role in my marriage and society, i need to become selfless and serve. as does josh needs to become selfless and serve.
    the slant in feminism and sexism tends to lean towards man being ignorant towards this "powerful woman-being" who goes unnoticed. a lot of men are trying to figure out women and who they are as people, while making sure they aren’t being jerks. i think in being fair, it’s really hard for men to understand their role in life too. if a man isn’t living in the Spirit then his sin will probably display itself by trying to puff himself up and act superior to women. i think when women aren’t living in the Spirit they will be discontent with the fact that they’re more sensitive and emotional than men.
    it makes me sad that this is a topic that’s still so heated in people who have the Spirit. if we are truth seeking, equality shouldn’t be the issue. we all, men and women alike should be not thinking too highly of ourselves. we should be serving each other selflessly. we should be reading the Word and being sensitive to what the Holy Spirit wants to show us as individuals. when that happens, the pull in our hearts to be anything but selfless will leave.
    ed,have fun with your blog:-)

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