Last week I posted my Confessions of a Sexist Blog Reader after discovering that I am far too likely to read blogs by guys just like myself (though probably taller). The comment section quickly filled up with some helpful thoughts, some frustration, and some questions. It didn’t seem right to take little shots at answering the comments when I didn’t have time. I think this issue is important enough to warrant another full post or two. I hope to give this issue the attention that it deserves.
Here are some of the core issues/questions that came up:
1. Where do bloggers, men especially, find the time?
2. Do women and men blog differently?
3. Why aren’t more women bloggers noticed in general? And then the follow up: Why aren’t women bloggers as prominent as men in the emerging church?
I’ll take a crack at the first question today . . .
I have to admit that I am mystified sometimes by the amount of time that some bloggers pour into their design, posts, images, etc. This blog here is pretty plain and it has become even more plain because I’ve decided that it’s not worth spending time on editing pictures to have some eye candy on the site. Other people can do it, but I’d rather spend more time on content. But back to our question: where does the time come from?
As for myself, I get up fairly early, help my wife get ready for school by making breakfast and piecing together a lunch, feed the rabbits, clean up the rabbits, get ready for work, and then settle in to blog for 30-60 minutes. That is my time to read other blogs and to write my own posts. My blogging was a decision that I made with my wife. We deemed it worthy of budgeting some time. There have been times when she has told me to lay off it a little, and I have. But for the most part we make it work.
I should also mention that we don’t have TV, so the internet is a lifeline of sorts in our home. We spend our evenings together either walking, reading books, etc. There is no temptation to sit in front of the TV that many other couples have. I suppose it all comes down to lifestyle decisions.
As for the thoughts of others, Andrew Jones made a point of not blogging on weekends so that his kids wouldn’t remember him as the guy in front of computer. I think that some bloggers may be in need of taking more time away from the computer. When Jones posted on this problem, there was a deluge of comments from other bloggers who needed some time off. I would not be surprised if some bloggers are sacrificing important priorities for the sake of posting regularly.
On the other hand, some may blog as part of their ministry or job. Some may do it as a hobby of choice. Some do it as a beneficial discipline.
Many of the guys who blog in the emerging church may have a ministry position, and therefore the time for blogging is easy to account for. If they work a job like the rest of us, they may have a little blog like this one that settles for a short to moderate post every day.
Do guys spend too much time blogging? Some do, some don’t. Some blog in the morning, some stay up really late, which I don’t view as a good thing. I am amazed sometimes at the amount of content that some bloggers post on their sites, but sometimes it comes down to how fast a person can read, process, and type. My wife reads about 4-5 books a week and our relationship has never suffered because of it. She just reads incredibly fast and has book nearby at all times.
In the end what really matters is knowing Jesus. I know that I have sometimes failed to spend enough time with him and/or my wife on account of my blogging, and therefore blogging must always remain under scrutiny. When evaluating the importance of blogging in our lives, we should keep this in mind:
‘It is not anyone who says to me, “Lord, Lord,” who will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the person who does the will of my Father in heaven. When the day comes many will say to me, “Lord, Lord, did we not blog, I mean prophesy in your name?” Then I shall tell them to their faces: “I have never known you; away from me all evildoers!” ‘
Matthew 7:21-23 (adapted for bloggers by Ed Cyzewski)