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		<title>By: The Dark Side of Pastors: Getting to the Root of Pastoral Affairs &#124; :: in.a.mirror.dimly ::</title>
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		<dc:creator>The Dark Side of Pastors: Getting to the Root of Pastoral Affairs &#124; :: in.a.mirror.dimly ::</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 27 Jan 2010 14:04:58 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] editorial note: Over the years one of my blog’s most popular posts is “Why Pastors Fall Into Affairs.” Search engines send folks my way every day because of that post, which tells me that a lot of [...]</description>
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		<title>By: ed</title>
		<link>http://inamirrordimly.com/2007/08/09/why-pastors-fall-into-affairs/comment-page-1/#comment-2832</link>
		<dc:creator>ed</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 17 Nov 2009 22:09:39 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Nathan, you have a lot of wisdom to share here that I appreciate. You&#039;ve also confirmed my decision to not be a traditional pastor!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Nathan, you have a lot of wisdom to share here that I appreciate. You&#8217;ve also confirmed my decision to not be a traditional pastor!</p>
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		<title>By: Nathan</title>
		<link>http://inamirrordimly.com/2007/08/09/why-pastors-fall-into-affairs/comment-page-1/#comment-2830</link>
		<dc:creator>Nathan</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 17 Nov 2009 20:39:35 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>This whole topic has been a personal passion of mine since I was a kid. I grew up a PK (pastor&#039;s kid) and saw first hand how stress can literally beat up, not only the pastor, but his entire family. Over time it takes its physical toll, not to mention an emotional one. 

Why do pastor&#039;s fall? It&#039;s simple. They&#039;re broken people living in a broken world, just like the rest of us. I would like to shoot the person who decided that it was a good idea to place a pastor on a higher pedestal (literally and figuratively) than the rest of us. We look to them for guidance and for direction (and to an extent we should), but their position in &#039;the church&#039; is no greater in the kingdom of God than the janitor faithfully collecting the trash or cleaning the toilets every week or the nursery worker holding a crying infant. Every person equally plays their part in the body of Christ. 

But somewhere along the line we&#039;ve elevated the position of pastor to an unhealthy level. We&#039;ve created &quot;glamour roles&quot; in the church, starting with the pastor down to the worship leader, etc. I think it&#039;s because of this pressure and in some cases even popularity, that leads to a pastor trying to find strength in his own abilities. Over time, one mistep after another lends itself to public failure and then we all wonder how/why it happened. Pastors need accountability too. They need friendship. Constant prayer and fellowship. I&#039;ve seen firsthand how Satan absolutely barrages a pastor and his family, in ways the average person sitting in a pew will never understand. If you want to watch the dominoes fall, it only takes one and who better than the &quot;head&quot;?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This whole topic has been a personal passion of mine since I was a kid. I grew up a PK (pastor&#8217;s kid) and saw first hand how stress can literally beat up, not only the pastor, but his entire family. Over time it takes its physical toll, not to mention an emotional one. </p>
<p>Why do pastor&#8217;s fall? It&#8217;s simple. They&#8217;re broken people living in a broken world, just like the rest of us. I would like to shoot the person who decided that it was a good idea to place a pastor on a higher pedestal (literally and figuratively) than the rest of us. We look to them for guidance and for direction (and to an extent we should), but their position in &#8216;the church&#8217; is no greater in the kingdom of God than the janitor faithfully collecting the trash or cleaning the toilets every week or the nursery worker holding a crying infant. Every person equally plays their part in the body of Christ. </p>
<p>But somewhere along the line we&#8217;ve elevated the position of pastor to an unhealthy level. We&#8217;ve created &#8220;glamour roles&#8221; in the church, starting with the pastor down to the worship leader, etc. I think it&#8217;s because of this pressure and in some cases even popularity, that leads to a pastor trying to find strength in his own abilities. Over time, one mistep after another lends itself to public failure and then we all wonder how/why it happened. Pastors need accountability too. They need friendship. Constant prayer and fellowship. I&#8217;ve seen firsthand how Satan absolutely barrages a pastor and his family, in ways the average person sitting in a pew will never understand. If you want to watch the dominoes fall, it only takes one and who better than the &#8220;head&#8221;?</p>
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		<title>By: Dominic Christison</title>
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		<dc:creator>Dominic Christison</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 17 Nov 2009 17:56:15 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I liked the comment, &quot;success has a way of turning on its master&quot;. I think you&#039;re right. The classic example that comes to mind is David and Bathsheba. I think it also highlights the fact that pre-produced lists that try and look for indicators of likely adultery don&#039;t always work out. I don&#039;t see &quot;enjoying a successful and growing ministry&quot; on the Focus on the Family list! The heart is deceitful....</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I liked the comment, &#8220;success has a way of turning on its master&#8221;. I think you&#8217;re right. The classic example that comes to mind is David and Bathsheba. I think it also highlights the fact that pre-produced lists that try and look for indicators of likely adultery don&#8217;t always work out. I don&#8217;t see &#8220;enjoying a successful and growing ministry&#8221; on the Focus on the Family list! The heart is deceitful&#8230;.</p>
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		<title>By: Pastors. Affairs. Power. Ethics. : djchuang.com</title>
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		<dc:creator>Pastors. Affairs. Power. Ethics. : djchuang.com</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 24 Jun 2009 22:00:01 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] reiterate, from Why Pastors Fall Into Affairs: &#8220;What is it with pastors and affairs? I did a brief search through Google and found all [...]</description>
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		<title>By: :: in a mirror dimly :: &#187; Blog Archive &#187; Less Trust, More Grace</title>
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		<dc:creator>:: in a mirror dimly :: &#187; Blog Archive &#187; Less Trust, More Grace</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 14 Aug 2007 11:34:30 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[...] in the book of Second Samuel, and so that creates some striking portraits. In light of my recent post about pastors falling into affairs, I noticed that just about every king, whether God-fearing or [...]</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>[...] in the book of Second Samuel, and so that creates some striking portraits. In light of my recent post about pastors falling into affairs, I noticed that just about every king, whether God-fearing or [...]</p>
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		<title>By: Jon</title>
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		<dc:creator>Jon</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 09 Aug 2007 16:42:05 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I like these thoughts, and I appreciate the reality check. I try to remind myself often, &quot;Self, you could cheat on your wife. Don&#039;t do that.&quot; Also, I love the idea of more grace and less trust. I&#039;m just not sure how that gets rid of the above list of things that lead to vulnerability that lead to the affairs in the first place? I&#039;d like to see more thoughts on that. Good post.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I like these thoughts, and I appreciate the reality check. I try to remind myself often, &#8220;Self, you could cheat on your wife. Don&#8217;t do that.&#8221; Also, I love the idea of more grace and less trust. I&#8217;m just not sure how that gets rid of the above list of things that lead to vulnerability that lead to the affairs in the first place? I&#8217;d like to see more thoughts on that. Good post.</p>
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		<title>By: Donnie</title>
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		<dc:creator>Donnie</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 09 Aug 2007 14:15:50 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Great post!  Interesting take on starting with an assumption of failure and going from there.  At first, I didn&#039;t think that was the best plan.  But, after thinking about it, it sort of makes sense.  Strategically, it takes away so much pressure, and it makes grace a primary concept.  Good thoughts.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Great post!  Interesting take on starting with an assumption of failure and going from there.  At first, I didn&#8217;t think that was the best plan.  But, after thinking about it, it sort of makes sense.  Strategically, it takes away so much pressure, and it makes grace a primary concept.  Good thoughts.</p>
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