Surviving the Divorce Factory-My Post at a Deeper Family

I’m posting over at A Deeper Family today. Here’s the introduction:

My friend calls the local university near us a divorce factory. I wouldn’t have used that exact phrase since I know several happily married people there, but since we started my wife Julie’s journey through graduate school, we’ve seen plenty of failed marriages. It’s something we’ve talked about a lot.

I grew up with divorced parents, so it doesn’t take a lot for me to talk about divorce. We’ve been vigilant, carefully watching the ebbs and flows of our relationship as my wife perseveres through the demanding hours of her PhD work.

I’m not a marriage expert, but I think I can spot the contempt and lack of communication that marks a failing marriage.

The past nine months have been especially demanding. A few days after the birth of our first child last July, I landed two book deals that were due within two weeks of each other, while she started reading for her PhD exams.

Read the rest at A Deeper Family.

2 thoughts on “Surviving the Divorce Factory-My Post at a Deeper Family

  1. Julie R

    Graduate school and all the stress that comes with it can definitely challenge a marriage.

    I hope this next bit doesn’t seem to weird. But, there are some pretty amazing resources for grad students who are Christians at the university you refer too. I am a postdoc there, and part of an amazing group of women who all have or are working toward their Ph.Ds, etc. I’d be happy to help her get connected if she’s interested.

  2. Melinda Viergever Inman

    Having just survived my first book deadline with added family stress, I think you handled this superbly. The day I signed my contract my mother-in-law’s health declined drastically. We’re now dealing with hospice and my first time through the publication. I cleared the decks of all the expendables and focused on my husband, my scattered abroad adult children and the remaining college student at home, and my novel. I find the process has deepened my dependence on Christ in all these crazy, conflicting emotions and stresses. By God’s grace and these strategies, we’ve avoided the divorce factory for thirty-six years.

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