Apr 6, 2012 23
Women in Ministry Series: When a Woman Finds Her Voice

Over the past year I’ve had the privilege of getting to know Stephanie Smith and have watched her develop her voice, refine her writing, and always, always learn with enthusiasm and humility. Those who question the quality of writing from 20-something writers simply haven’t met Steph.
I never wanted to host the women’s coffee and danish hour; I wanted to rescue child soldiers. And I didn’t want to do women’s ministry at a church; I wanted to go to the red light district of Amsterdam.
I never wanted to do women’s ministry. I got roped into it.
It was my freshman year at Moody Bible Institute, and my plan to major in missions to serve among the hungry and impoverished was effectively upturned by an informational meeting for the Women’s Ministry major.
There were only a few of us, a cluster of girls and the department chair politely taking turns sharing their passions as we went around the table. During the course of the meeting, estrogen was displayed at its finest—one girl started crying about a paper she had to finish that night, and there was the inevitable mention of PMS. The professor talked to us with her manicured hands, telling us an anecdote about how her husband recently dragged her to Home Depot when all she wanted was a latte—nonfat and no foam, please.
There we were, women young and old saturated in our own stereotypes, and somehow, in a peculiar stunt of grace, I wanted in.
I wanted in for the same reason that fires me up today—because beyond the tedious gender debates and the defensive disclaimers against angry feminists and doormat housewives, I believe in women. And I have witnessed, first as a student of women’s ministry and many times since, the beauty of a woman who has found her voice. This is what I hope we will be known for—not our looks, our limitations, or our agenda, but our voice.
She may use her voice to sing the back-up harmony or to lead an army, I’ve seen both. Sometimes her voice is bold and authoritative, trembling with the urgent tenor of the movers and shakers, muckrakers and go-getters, and sometimes she speaks quietly out of a well deep with wisdom. And me? I learned through the generous affirmation of others that my voice best ministers through paper. I’m not the woman at the helm, teaching and leading great initiatives and events. I’m the woman whose heart overflows onto the page and perhaps touches a kindred soul.
She’s free to find her own style. This is what I discovered as I delved into the Scriptures for myself, searching for God’s heart for His daughters from quick-handed Jael to meek-hearted Mary.
I used to echo the sentiment of Sue Monk Kidd, author of The Secret Life of Bees, when she said, “Mary and sacred feminine images in general had become wounded, diminished, and sacrificed…I was put off by the meek and mild look. I wanted to shake her.”[1] But as I look to Mary’s famed Magnificat, or Mary’s song, I see a woman who knew how to articulate herself. . .and speak to her Maker’s glory. Mary not only possessed a strong sense of voice, she sang. And we are called to do the same.
About Today’s Blogger
Stephanie S. Smith is a twenty-something writer, editor, and book publicist addicted to print and pixels. She runs her business, (In)dialogue Communications, from her home in Upstate New York where she lives with her husband, trying her hand at backyard sustainable living and muddling her way through the liturgical year. You can find her blogging at www.stephindialogue.com about embodied faith, or tweeting @stephindialogue.
About the Women in Ministry Series
The Women in Ministry Series is a collection of guest posts that aims to:
- Provide an alternative to the women in ministry debates by telling the stories of women in ministry.
- Encourage women to explore their God-given callings.
Contributions Welcome: Contact Ed to pitch your post idea in 2-4 sentences.
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Next Week’s Blogger: Pastor Meg Jenista
[1] Sue Monk Kidd, Traveling with Pomegranates (New York: Penguin Books, reprint edition 2010), 48.










