May 1, 2012 11
Belonging: The Worst Church Job Ever
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Remember the DJ at junior high and high school dances? He was usually some middle-aged guy dressed in black who struggled to provide a musical mix that combined popular songs with classic hits with slow dances with dances that have steps with anything else that eager teenagers requested. I never envied DJ’s. I thought someone would have to be crazy to take on a job like that.
Then I took on a job like that. I became a worship leader.
OK, I know you’re thinking, “But Ed, you’re a Baptist who attended Taylor University where there’s still a no-dancing policy! Surely worship leaders of your ilk didn’t have dances.”
This is true, but the challenges facing worship leaders are far greater than those faced by DJ’s, especially DJ’s at multi-generational parties. I’ve served in many positions in the church and witnessed all of them up close—from teacher to janitor. I am firmly convinced that being a worship leader is the worst job of them all. By worst, I mean it’s the most difficult, most draining, and least understood. Before you jump to the comment form to chew me out, let me explain.
Worship leaders are paid to stand on stage in front of hundreds, if not thousands of people and lead them into the worship of God. This is a holy, awesome, wonderful calling, but it also means that worship leaders are exposed in a very, very vulnerable position. Their worship is on stage for all to see, and you better believe someone is going to judge them.
I know a lot of people love their worship leaders, and there are some people who feel extremely fulfilled in their callings. In some churches worship leaders are quite happy. Great. My hands are lifted high in thanksgiving (or in my pockets if you’re a Baptist).
However, if there’s someone who is going to get dumped on, there are plenty of times when the worship leader comes into the line of fire for choosing the wrong songs, making people stand too long, or asking people to clap, raise their hands, or do something terribly unspeakable like… closing… their… eyes.
I know there are worship leaders who sometimes cross the line. I’ve done that myself, telling people to worship God in ways that weren’t authentic. I’m not making excuses for the times worship leaders get it wrong.
I’ve stood up there in front of hundreds of people, and I know what it feels like to lose my place in a song because I got so caught up in the glory of God. I’ve committed to long rehearsals and worked hard to get my team on the same page, only to hear that people are complaining about the drummer who is a bit too loud. I’ve tried to put together a meaningful worship service that reflects both a common theme and the musical diversity of a congregation, only to get my ears pinned back by folks who don’t like my song choices.
It’s moments like those where I felt like an embattled DJ, just trying to do my level best.
The hardest thing about criticism for worship leaders is that all of the critique centers around the worship of God. What a personal, intimate topic to attack each other over. I’d much rather scrub the toilets at church and hear from someone that I missed a spot than spend two rehearsals working on a worship set and spill my heart out on stage only to learn that a bunch of people aren’t happy with me.
If worship leaders are doing it right, they are completely consumed with God, lost in the presence of God rather than the hundreds of eyes focused on them. Anything could happen, and they need to somehow keep the service on course, stay focused on God, and then absorb criticism when it’s done.
I can handle criticism of my sermon. I don’t mind if someone thinks a program needs to change. However, when we start critiquing the way someone publicly worships for the benefit of others, we’re stepping onto slippery territory here.
Words like patience, gentleness, and humility come to mind when we speak of confronting a worship leader. In the past, I’ve been none of those things to worship leaders. I’ve seen people fail to extend those qualities to me as well.
Perhaps it all goes back to considering our desired results.
All too often, I’ve focused on the results, the shape of the church service or the songs I want the people to sing. When I griped to a worship leader about our song choices, I just wanted “better” songs. I didn’t give any thought to the challenges he faced. I soon experienced them for myself.
Perhaps we can extend more grace to one another in our Christian communities if we can picture something like this…
A young worship leader has just finished the second service on Sunday morning. He’s been through two rehearsals over the past week in addition to school, work, and a tense situation at home. He’s been up since 6 am, and all he wants now is a hoagie (think of a sub sandwich, only more Philadelphian and better).
As he lugs his guitar, amp, and song book out of the church, no one thanks him. No one tells him he did a good job.
Five feet away from the front door and the freedom of the outdoors, a couple pulls him aside. They are upset, worried that he’s not playing the right kinds of songs, and they want him to organize a special service dedicated to the songs they prefer—songs he doesn’t know, songs he’s sure he’ll mess up.
It would take him too long to explain all of this: the weariness of his week, his insecurities, or his annoyance at their pestering. He loses his temper. He won’t hear them out. He can’t do it. That’s the end of it.
He stomps off to his car, wondering what just happened, who he’d just become, and what it means to lead people in worship anyway. Deep down he knows it’s not about him, but when you’re a worship leader in front of everyone, it’s hard to know when it’s about the people in the pews, when it’s about yourself, and when you’ve finally found that magnificent sweet spot where all of the anger, bickering, and doubt fade away in the presence of a loving, majestic God.










